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The blame for abuse lies solely with the abuser - contact us and let US work to help YOU.
We can help increase your self-esteem and help you lead a more productive and happy life.
HOW ASCA CAN HELP
To separate fact from fiction, our abuse counselling services are able to challenge the myths surrounding CSA and replace them with more accurate information. Below are some common misconceptions contrasted with current facts and beliefs.
Childhood Abuse Counselling
Some survivors are well aware of the trauma they experienced in childhood, other survivors may not remember that they have been abused, or they may only remember some experiences of abuse. You can refer to our checklist, which documents the after effects of Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA).
Alienation from the body - not at home in own body, failure to heed body signals or take care of one's body. Poor body image. Manipulating body size to avoid sexual attention.
Anorexia; Bulimia; Overeating.
Drug and/or alcohol abuse or total abstinence; Other forms of addiction or compulsive behaviour.
Self-destructiveness - cutting self, skin carving, self-abuse.
Suicidal thoughts, ideas, attempts, obsession (including passive suicide).
Varying degrees of depression, seemingly baseless crying.
Anger issues: inability to recognise, own, or express anger; fear of actual or imagined rape; constant anger; intense hostility towards entire gender or ethnic group of the perpetrator.
Splitting/ depersonalisation; going into shock; emotional shutdown in a crisis; stressful situations are always crises; physical numbing; physical pain or numbness associated with a particular memory, emotion i.e. anger, or situation i.e. sex.
Boundary issues: control, power, territorial issues; fear of losing control; obsessive compulsive behaviour - attempts to control things that do not matter, just to control something.
Blocking out some period of early years, especially 1 - 12, or a specific person or place.
Pattern of ambivalent or intensely conflictive relationships (intimacy is a problem).
Limited tolerance for happiness, active withdrawal from happiness, reluctance to trust happiness.
The process of remembering is like putting together a jigsaw puzzle; memories often come back in bits & pieces. They can seem distant, like something you're observing from far away, or as clear as a snapshot.
A common impact of trauma and CSA is in the formation, consolidation, storage & retrieval of memories, especially autobiographical memories, which can lead to amnesia. This amnesia can be total or partial, in which certain experiences cannot be recalled. Often, such memories are experienced as physical sensations or reactions or flashbacks.
It's common to know something happened but not remember the specific details - you may not remember your age or the time of year, never mind graphic details of the abuse or abuser. However this doesn't mean it didn't happen or that you're going mad - it's your brain's way of coping by blocking certain aspects of the abuse out as the trauma of remembering can be too great without the help of a supportive Counsellor with experience of abuse work to accompany you on the journey of discovering the truth and being able to deal with it.
The adult survivor may believe that he/she is mentally ill, as flashbacks occur spontaneously, sometimes accompanied by auditory, visual or olfactory hallucinations. The adult survivor may be reluctant to discuss such symptoms for fear of being sectioned or subjected to psychiatric intervention. This is particularly so if the survivor has already had negative experiences of psychiatric services. Such adult survivors of CSA may be deeply suspicious when seeking counselling, for fear of being labelled or judged, and they may be reluctant to talk about their experiences.
For survivors under 18 looking for support please contact:
Childline - 0800 1111
For adults concerned about a child please contact:
NSPCC - 0808 800 5000
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