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Childhood abuse covers many areas including; emotional, physical, sexual and parental neglect.
Childhood Abuse Counselling - recovering from child abuse
We have Counsellors based in Newcastle Upon Tyne trained in dealing with recovering from child abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse and parental abuse.
Sexual abuse is the predominant reason most clients seek counselling but there are other forms of abuse, including; emotional, psychological and physical abuse which can range from a smack to a severe beating and also parental neglect. It's understandable that people often approach these issues with fear and trepidation but our abuse counselling services are here to listen to you and help you learn to cope with everything you're carrying - not to reprimand or correct you.
What Is Meant By The Term Abuse ?
Abuse is a contravention and an infringement of a persons human and civil rights, carried out by another person, or persons. Abuse can be any kind or incident of abuse committed against the person or persons, or a series of repetitive acts.
There is generally speaking, always an expectancy of trust , belief and confidence that a person is safe in any kind of relationship.
However it is mostly well known in todays society, and of course around the world that abuse can and does happen in all areas of todays modern life.
Abuse very often ends in a person or persons receiving some form of harm, whether that harm is significant, substantial or minor.
Exploitation of the person can be carried out by Family, partners, friends, work colleagues and almost any person that you might come into contact with in your life.
Abuse is often committed against people who are psychologically or sometimes physically vulnerable, however this is certainly not at all always the case. Physically and emotionally aware persons can also be abused in all its forms. You can be exploited, manipulated, tricked, scammed, love bombed along with a whole host of other psychological exploitations.
All manner of abuse and poor treatment can be delivered to people in a variety of differing ways. Some abuse is disguised and is often deliberate and malicious, other forms of abuse are very blatant and deliberately delivered by the perpetrator.
The most common and well known forms of abuse are, sexual, physical, emotional and parental neglect which are the types of abuse that the general public are much more aware of and more likely to act upon.
Different Types Of Abuse You Might Come Across:
Sexual abuse is something which is generally speaking carried out in secret, although it can be perpetrated in public areas.
Sexual abuse includes, Sexual acts, Rape, Sexual assault of varying descriptions.
Consent and the mental capacity of the person to be able to consent is of extreme importance, with regards to not wanting or having not consented to the sexual activity irrespective of the relationship or non relationship involved.
Sexual assault and sexual abuse can be perpetrated in very different ways, either indirectly ie: making, emotionally forcing or coercing a vulnerable person or a child to watch sexual acts, or directly by using force, power or position to carry out sexual activity.
Sexual abuse is not confined to persons who are strangers, this kind of abuse can and is often perpetrated against people who may be very well known to the victim, ie: people in long or short term relationships, your boss at work, the next door neighbour, your priest, a doctor or even a policeman/woman. Absolutely anybody you know could very well be a covert sexual predator.
Emotional abuse can be directed towards you in various different ways, you can be verbally abused which generally involves a person saying things to you or others, which are very insulting and personally hurtful to you as a person, and can have a long term effect on your emotional wellbeing and the way that you think about yourself emotionally.
You can be bullied and intimidated and this kind of abuse can be suffered by anyone anywhere. Bullying and different forms of intimidation can be instigated by your family, your boss at work, or your next door neighbour/s, or even by people or groups outside of your circle of friends. Abuse can even appear from your best friends when personal relationships hit problems.
These abuses can involve threats of all descriptions including abandonment, personal insults, humiliation and threatening behaviours, directed towards you, your family and friends.
Demeaning and controlling behaviours and narcissistic type treatment are used by the abuser to make you feel belittled and small and are sometimes used to separate you out from your peer groups by way of attempts to delegitimise your statements or your actions and your personality.
Emotional abuse is something which we can mostly all relate to in one way or another throughout our lives, and it is almost certainly something which most of us have at one point or another experienced in one form or another.
We have mostly all suffered and perpetrated some abuse at times for all sorts of reasons, however of course that doesn’t mean to say that we are all abusers.Human nature being what it is, means that we can find ourselves in all sorts of delicate and tricky situations where we might be pushed, intimidated, tricked, scammed, or even physically abused, and who wouldn’t blame us for occasionally losing our tempers and lashing out verbally at others, and saying things that are rather distasteful and regrettable.
Physical Abuse is where a person is abused physically by any number of ways. You could be slapped, punched, kicked, pushed, prodded, nipped, physically bumped into deliberately, roughed up or hit with an object, such as anything that can be picked up and used as a physical weapon against your person. Using any kind of restraint that prevents you from moving out of your present position ie: a room or a place.
Domestic Abuse is now much more recognised and acted upon by members of our modern society.
Police, social services and other specialist domestic abuse agencies are now very swift to act upon reports of this nature.
Domestic abuse incorporates physical as well as emotional violence, or any type of threatening behaviours, whether they be sexual or even financial abuses.
These abuses can be perpetrated against another person very often when people have been or are intimate in a relationship, it makes no difference if the individuals are married, partners, or simply cohabiting.
Domestic violence might involve other members of a family that might actually agree with the abuse and collaborate with the perpetrator, this kind of collusion will land you in a court of law.
Domestic abuse is not confined to just one gender group, it is present and reported across all gender groups and orientations.
Acts Of Omission - Keeping Abuse To Yourself
This type of abuse can be viewed by our UK courts as being just as bad as being the actual abuser themselves.
Keeping abuse to yourself can very well be seriously detrimental, not just to the person who is currently being abused or neglected, but also to the individual who is remaining silent and not reporting to the correct public authorities.
Parental neglect or any other types of neglect or omissions ( not reporting and remaining silent ) can bring very tough prison sentences and heavy punishments, for those who believe that not reporting these types of serious offences is non of their business.
It is your business if you have knowledge of these circumstances, and above all you have a legal responsibility to report.
These offences against the person or persons involved can include some rather basic needs, these are everyday things that we all take for granted, however they are very important needs that a person needs to live their life.
These needs include ensuring that such things as the basics are provided ie: the correct kind of food, medical and dental care, the right medication, heating, hot water for washing, and generally not taking good and proper care of a vulnerable person. If you know about it report it.
Institutional Abuse, is again something which is now much more recognised by the general public today.
This kind of rather cruel and often power and financially driven form of abuse is hidden by certain institutions across the land in the hope that it will not be discovered by those who are looking to uncover these very distasteful and often unseen and under reported practises.
This type of abuse can occur when particular practices and routines are not complied with or even ignored and therefore, these very unhelpful and uncomfortable events can often take place and remain unchallenged.
Poor and unsafe staffing levels
Level of company care
Lack of flexibility and a severe lack of choice for service users and others using the service
Poor or lack of management overview and support structures in place
There is often a high absence of visitors
Lack of acceptable procedures
Individuals possessions and communal use of personal and intimate items
The person not being afforded any protection during bathing
Clients have very little of their own personal clothing
Public discussion of a persons confidential and personal matters
People hungry and dehydrated
Little or no social, recreational and educational activities
The person not being afforded any protection during using the toilet
No care plans set in place for clients
This is a nasty abuse that has touched most of us in one way or another. Its really unpleasant when you discover someone has walked away with your personal stuff all neatly wrapped up in a nice expensive laptop bag !!!. Or someone has stolen your purse or entire handbag.
It's still theft along with a plethora of different types of thefts.
A person can steal your valuables off you in all sorts of ways, and the people who might steal money from you come in all different guises, no matter how credible you might believe them to be.
Financial Abuse can and does crop up in families for all sorts of reasons and familial dynamics, and sometimes an individual/s can be in exploitative position’s within that family framework.
People can be held short of money that should be used to pay essential bills and food, or emotional pressure is used to coerce others into altering wills and access to financial banking and other accounts such as DWP payments, Council payments, or any other documents that might turnout to be useful towards designing a fraud or theft against a vulnerable person.
This is discrimination, its the kind of abuse that stretches over several areas of society and is regularly in the media because of the immense and painful psychological pressure that it can place, on a persons sense of who they are in society when abuse is based on a vulnerable persons sexuality, ethnic origin, gender, religion, language or a persons disability.
Myths surrounding Childhood Abuse
Effects of sexual abuse
- Lack of self confidence
- Sleep problems
Damage caused by sexual abuse
- Marital problems
- Distrusting people
- Alcohol problems
- Drug problems
- Aggressive behaviour
- Unable to love, or show affection
How ASCA Can Help
ASCA Counsellors are here to listen to you and help you understand the reasons and fear as well as help you work through what YOU want to work through - we won't judge you or attempt to minimise your feelings as we know each client is individual and have their own ways of coping and reasoning.
The adult survivor may experience a variety of other perceptual difficulties and distortions, including delusions and hallucinations. Seemingly neutral or innocent noises can become disturbing to the survivor if he/she links them to his/her CSA experience.
ASCA's abuse counselling services are designed to help you deal with any flashbacks and cope with any previous experiences you may have had - all you need to do is make the first step by contacting us.
You can access further information relating to CSA and flashbacks here.